Lately I find myself catching my breath. Simple moments with my 16 month old leave me falling back in my mind. We are starting to bond, like really bond. There are trains on the floor and blue shirts and dinosaurs all around. All these things are evidence that a boy lives here, grows here, sleeps here. We've begun the early stages of potty training. The other day as I took his diaper off to watch him toddle into the bathroom he started peeing, clearly not making it to the toilet in time. At first he cried, unaware of what what happening. But then I laughed and reassured him it was alright and soon he was laughing and it was such a great moment between us, mother and son. And for a brief moment I thought "this is how it was always supposed to be." This is how it was supposed to be if my first born had lived. If raising a boy was the first child I got to raise, mold and shape.
Sometimes when its just Judah and myself those words "this is how it was supposed to be," wash over me again and again. Its as if it makes it possible to see back in time to the "what if he had lived" portion of my life. I know Judah is my third child but in so many ways he feels like the first. Caleb died, Abigail was born and everything was a thick fog of grief. I don't remember much about the first year of Abigail's life. But Judah, Judah came at at time when I was better-mentally, physically, emotionally. Its as if the lens is cleaned now and I'm seeing things, or rather raising a baby, for the first time. Everything I do with this child feels fresh and new and like he is my first. But he's not. See how confusing it still is? Because even in those blissful moments when I think "this is how it was supposed to be," its not how it is.
The fact remains that Judah is not Caleb. When I try to swap the two kids my heart instantly sinks because the more I know Judah the more I want to know Caleb. The more trains and cars and dinosaurs we buy the more I long to have them already. Some days I feel like I'm going backwards through time, not forward. I had in my mind when I was pregnant with Caleb this great expectation of what being a boy mom would be like. And the thing I'm learning is-its all true and then some! It's really as great as I thought it would be. Mother and son, son and mother-the bond between us is so close, so precious. But where does that leave my other son? I have another son, right? I still have to convince myself because the longer it gets from his birth and death the less I remember. The less tangible things I have of him. And I hate that.
"This is how it was supposed to be." Except its not. This is how it is. I have three children. I have two sons. One I grow closer and closer with each day and the other is ?what? I don't know. That's the hard part. Its days like today and weeks like this that I feel the weight of all we were robbed of when death took Caleb from us.
Don't really have a nice way to wrap this up other than to say, I still miss my first born son.
Tuesday, May 31, 2016
Sunday, January 17, 2016
Behold I make all things new
As we celebrate Judah's one year birthday, I can't help but remember those final weeks that led up to his birth. I've spent a year processing it all, and the one thing that it all comes back to is this scripture verse from Revelation:
"Behold I make all things New." (Revelation 21:5)
Anyone who has ever gone through any suffering can attest that for the most part you just want it to end. But as a Catholic mom suffering after the death of her first child, I not only wanted my suffering to end, but I also wanted it to mean something. That meaning is what we call redemptive suffering. The idea that because we are one with Christ we can offer up to Him our sufferings and He can use them so that nothing is wasted; even the hard things can be seen eventually for His glory. I've spent a lot of time since Caleb died offering up my aching heart, my tears, my longing to see my firstborn, all back to God in the hopes of Him using it, somehow.
What has surprised me the most is that while I was doing this, God continued to reach out to me to take those sufferings, those hard things, and redeem them. That pretty much sums up Judah's entire pregnancy and birth - one big story of redemption. I've tried many times over the past year to put this all into words, so bear with me if it seems choppy. My intent is to show that, though we may suffer, we serve a God who uses our suffering. What's more, He wants to make our situations better. He longs to take those painful memories, that hurtful past and make it into something "new." And He did just that with the birth of our third child, Judah Thomas.
When we found out Judah was a boy, I quickly went to that dark hole of grief that I had been trying to stay out of the whole pregnancy. I knew from experience that I could birth a live baby girl, not a boy. I also knew that I wanted another boy, sometime maybe down the road, but not right now. I didn't want to "unpack" all the emotional baggage, as well as the physical things from Caleb that were collecting dust in the attic of my soul. But here we were, having a boy, and so I said to God, "Show me what you got, because its going to take a lot to get me through this." I actually believed it would take a miracle for me to birth and then bring home a live baby boy. I believed this so much that I clung to St. Jude in prayer, the patron saint of impossible causes. Everything about having another boy felt impossible. But there was this teeny, tiny voice in my head that reminded me "Nothing is impossible with God" (Luke 1:37)
Fast forwarding through most of the pregnancy, except for a few key things:
My Bible study that year had been studying the Israelite's return to Jerusalem from exile. I was reminded on a weekly basis that God not only wants us to face our past, but He also journeys with us to that hard place. As the Israelites returned to a ruined city and began to rebuild, I knew this was no accident that He had me study this particular story during this particular time in my life. These lines in particular comforted me throughout the pregnancy. They refer to the day when the "remnant" or what remains of Israel (the people) are watching the new foundation of the new temple being laid, in their old land.
"Many of the priests, Levites, and family heads, the old men who had seen the former house, cried out in sorrow as they watched the foundation of the present house being laid. Many others, however, lifted up their voices in shouts of joy, and no one could distinguish the sound of joyful shouting from the sound of those who were weeping for the people raised a mighty clamor which was heard afar off." Ezra 3:12-13
I love these verses! I was living them. My heart cried with sorrow as we began to prepare to bring home another boy, all because I missed our first boy. But there was also shouts of joy as Judah's arrival got closer. And when I felt so mixed up in my heart on what to feel - sorrow or joy - I was reminded that "no one could distinguish the sound of joyful shouting from the sound of those who were weeping." I felt like these verses were directly from God to soothe my heart and continue to give me courage.
As Judah's induction date neared my ability to remain calm was next to none. To say I was living minute-by-minute, day-by-day would be correct. Every pregnancy requires a certain amount of letting go of control (especially at the end), but pregnancy after a loss carries so much more fear when you see the control slipping away (and when you're baby had died at the very end). You live in a constant state of "what if," and you begin to doubt all your decisions about the baby's movements, the interventions, etc. I tried to hang onto my sanity each day. I could never in a million years have planned or foreseen the events of the week leading up to Judah's birth. God certainly took me up on my offer to "show me what you got," and through a series of events I can hopefully show how He indeed made "all things new," for my heart.
Monday, January 12- I have a routine non-stress test to monitor baby's movements. Up until this point in pregnancy Judah had been breeched and we had a scheduled c-section for Friday January 16th. I usually spent each 20-30 minute non-stress test listening to praise and worship music with my headphones. These tests are very stressful for any mom who has had a previous stillbirth because they have so much to do with baby's movements or lack of movements. During my "prayer" time as I liked to call it, while listening to this song, I felt God ask me,
"what do you want? A c-section or not?"
While the c-section did hold some appeal because of the control factor in it, ultimately I told Him that I would like to try to deliver another baby boy naturally and this time see my baby boy come out alive, not dead. Not 5 minutes later the nurse came in to check Judah's movement strip on the machine. She said he was not moving as much as they would like, so off to the sonogram room it was.
The sonogram room is my worst nightmare because that is where I was told Caleb had died. I have seared in my memory the tech who was working the sonogram machine the day Caleb died. I do not like this tech, not because of anything she has ever done, but simply because of the news she told me all those years ago. I had miraculously avoided her Judah's entire pregnancy, until that Monday. As I climbed onto the sonogram table I had an inward panic attack when I saw her face and realized she would be doing the sonogram. "Please don't let this be a repeat Lord, don't let the baby be dead," was the only thing I could think. Within seconds I heard Judah's strong heartbeat and saw him moving on the screen. I looked at the sonogram lady and she was smiling and said "he flipped! He's head down ready for delivery!"
And me and the sonogram lady had a moment of pure happiness.
I'm not sure if she remembers me, but the Lord knew that I remembered her and my only memory with her was terrible. He redeemed that memory, and replaced it with one of joy. She continued on to say the baby looked healthy and great and I left the office feeling wave after wave of peace wash over me.
Tuesday January 13, 3:00am- I was in the middle of a panic attack on our way to the hospital. Because we now planned to induce within the week, I had received a steroid injection Monday afternoon to help develop baby's lungs. Unfortunately, I think a side effect of this injection was extreme anxiety which then turned into panic. I was officially convinced when we showed up to labor and delivery that the baby was dead. But, thankfully Judah was safe and sound, and we got to hear his strong heartbeat as we sat through an hour of monitoring. While there the nurse that attended to me was very sweet. At one point she said "did you use to work at Saint Mary's Grade school?" Yes, yes I did. With tears in her eyes she said that because her kids went to school there, she remembered me and my son Caleb. Her empathy and compassion were like a healing balm to my soul at that scary moment. She reassured me that this baby boy would come out alive. I felt God validate through this women that this journey had been scary ( I mean she was even choked up!), and He had not forgotten me or my firstborn son. We left the hospital at 5am with a clean bill of health for me and baby.
Wednesday January 14- I have another non-stress test and baby does great. I tell my doctor that Im freaking out and I NEED this baby to come out. Originally the doctors had wanted me to try to wait until 38 weeks or beyond to induce because of Judah being a boy and the possibility of his lungs being under-developed. Sunday would have been our scheduled induction at exactly 38 weeks but I knew I couldn't make it that long. Even though it was only 5 days away, I had a gut feeling that I needed to get this baby out. My doctor is wonderful and agreed. We scheduled an induction for 7pm the following night. All I could think was "just keep this baby alive for one more night and one more day, then its the hospital's job to keep him alive." Like I said, I was living moment by moment.
Thursday January 15- It all began to hit me as we packed the hospital bag-Thursday, Thursday, Thursday. I had done this before on a Thursday night 4 years ago, packing a hospital bag to go deliver a stillborn baby. But this Thursday was different, this was "new." Anyone who has ever dealt with grief knows all about triggers and dates lining up. We were setting ourselves up for the exact same timeline of our delivery with Caleb. I kept thinking "God really cares about details!"
So we packed, dropped Abigail off at my mom's and then called labor and delivery. Nope, they didn't have a room yet, call back in an hour. This exact same thing happened to us with Caleb. It felt like the twilight zone as Nathan and I and my big belly wondered around our house trying to figure out what to do to pass the time until we could go to the hospital. I have such strong memories of doing this exact thing with Caleb. And then at 11 pm, the same time we got the ok with Caleb, the hospital said they had a room!
We rushed over there, but not before stopping to do one small task-take out the recycling. If there is anything you take from this story, please remember the recycling because it blows my mind even now. When we went to deliver Caleb all those years ago on a Thursday night, we saw that everyone on our street had put their recycling cans out for the next day. In a daze we looked at each other and said "what do we do?" It was the first time I realized that the world would keep moving even though our world had stopped. In the end Nate put the recycling cans out and for the last 4 years every time (once a month) that I saw all those recycling cans lined up on our street, I felt sick to my stomach with grief. So here we were, again on recycling night (which again only happens once a month!) and so we put the cans out. In the months since Judah's birth, whenever the cans are out, I now immediately think "that's the night we went to deliver Judah," and there is happiness in my heart. God cared about that small detail that hurt my heart and lined things up exactly to redeem even that.
Thursday January 15-Saturday January 17
You can read about Judah's entire birth story here. God continued to redeem things even during the labor and delivery. We again started induction on Thursday night like with Caleb and again delivered a baby boy on Saturday morning, just like with Caleb. Thankfully, Judah was born alive and well, fulfilling the prophecy God had told me in prayer "In the dead of winter we will bring forth new life." When Caleb died it was Spring, and I felt overcome with sadness that in the heart of this life-giving season, death had stole my son. Now, however in the dead of winter God promised to do something "new," to bring life during the harshest, darkest season.
The nurse that was on duty Friday night was named Kathy. She let me cry to her about how scared I was and knew how to handle me. The name Kathy was also the name of the nurse that cared for me after Caleb was born and ultimately carried Caleb out of my room. I still have in my mind the image of that nurse, named Kathy, leaving my room with my baby never to see him again. In a way having another nurse Kathy might just be coincidence, but I see God's fingerprints all over it as a way to redeem another hard memory.
The nurse, Laura, that actually delivered Caleb was there on call again to deliver Judah. Instead of tears of sadness like she had when Caleb was born, this time she had shouts of joy! She energized the whole room with her positive attitude and I knew once she arrived that everything was going to be alright. At 9:52 a.m with tons and tons of light streaming in the windows, Judah Thomas Carr was born!
Lastly, in the years since Caleb's death, I had often begged God for answers. I can't tell you how many times I've wondered "how does a normal, healthy baby just up and die?" In time I've accepted that answers wouldn't change the fact that he is gone, but I always still longed to know. Because of certain details during Judah's labor and then delivery AND thanks to our amazing doctor, we were able to gain some clues as to why Caleb died. Again, if you want the whole story read the link to the birth story above, but the gist of it is that God gave us answers after four long years of not knowing much.
In the hours, days and weeks after Judah was born there was lots of talk about Caleb and Judah and my two boys and this link they had because of Judah showing us reasons why Caleb died. It was beautiful and unexpected, and I still cry over it when I think about how good God's timing is. I never expected to walk out of the hospital last January with a live baby boy AND answers to a four year long mystery, but we did. I guess God's got more than I give him credit for and He did indeed show me up.
So, on this one year anniversary of Judah's birth, I want to again say thank you to God. We named Judah the name we did because Judah means thanksgiving and praise. Thanksgiving and praise were the only way through our darkness, and now Judah is one and there is so much light. A part of myself has come back to me in this past year since Judah's birth, a part that has been gone or missing since Caleb died. God has brought redemption to so many things through this son of ours. Most of that redemption has come by walking back through so many painful memories so that He could redeem them.
If you are in a hard season, a hard life, please know that God can and does use our suffering. He can "make all things new." I can't tell you when or how, but I know if you ask Him, He will come and help lighten those painful memories. I will always carry the scars from Caleb's death around, but God has softened them and given me new memories of joy.
"Behold I make all things New." (Revelation 21:5)
Anyone who has ever gone through any suffering can attest that for the most part you just want it to end. But as a Catholic mom suffering after the death of her first child, I not only wanted my suffering to end, but I also wanted it to mean something. That meaning is what we call redemptive suffering. The idea that because we are one with Christ we can offer up to Him our sufferings and He can use them so that nothing is wasted; even the hard things can be seen eventually for His glory. I've spent a lot of time since Caleb died offering up my aching heart, my tears, my longing to see my firstborn, all back to God in the hopes of Him using it, somehow.
What has surprised me the most is that while I was doing this, God continued to reach out to me to take those sufferings, those hard things, and redeem them. That pretty much sums up Judah's entire pregnancy and birth - one big story of redemption. I've tried many times over the past year to put this all into words, so bear with me if it seems choppy. My intent is to show that, though we may suffer, we serve a God who uses our suffering. What's more, He wants to make our situations better. He longs to take those painful memories, that hurtful past and make it into something "new." And He did just that with the birth of our third child, Judah Thomas.
When we found out Judah was a boy, I quickly went to that dark hole of grief that I had been trying to stay out of the whole pregnancy. I knew from experience that I could birth a live baby girl, not a boy. I also knew that I wanted another boy, sometime maybe down the road, but not right now. I didn't want to "unpack" all the emotional baggage, as well as the physical things from Caleb that were collecting dust in the attic of my soul. But here we were, having a boy, and so I said to God, "Show me what you got, because its going to take a lot to get me through this." I actually believed it would take a miracle for me to birth and then bring home a live baby boy. I believed this so much that I clung to St. Jude in prayer, the patron saint of impossible causes. Everything about having another boy felt impossible. But there was this teeny, tiny voice in my head that reminded me "Nothing is impossible with God" (Luke 1:37)
Fast forwarding through most of the pregnancy, except for a few key things:
My Bible study that year had been studying the Israelite's return to Jerusalem from exile. I was reminded on a weekly basis that God not only wants us to face our past, but He also journeys with us to that hard place. As the Israelites returned to a ruined city and began to rebuild, I knew this was no accident that He had me study this particular story during this particular time in my life. These lines in particular comforted me throughout the pregnancy. They refer to the day when the "remnant" or what remains of Israel (the people) are watching the new foundation of the new temple being laid, in their old land.
"Many of the priests, Levites, and family heads, the old men who had seen the former house, cried out in sorrow as they watched the foundation of the present house being laid. Many others, however, lifted up their voices in shouts of joy, and no one could distinguish the sound of joyful shouting from the sound of those who were weeping for the people raised a mighty clamor which was heard afar off." Ezra 3:12-13
I love these verses! I was living them. My heart cried with sorrow as we began to prepare to bring home another boy, all because I missed our first boy. But there was also shouts of joy as Judah's arrival got closer. And when I felt so mixed up in my heart on what to feel - sorrow or joy - I was reminded that "no one could distinguish the sound of joyful shouting from the sound of those who were weeping." I felt like these verses were directly from God to soothe my heart and continue to give me courage.
As Judah's induction date neared my ability to remain calm was next to none. To say I was living minute-by-minute, day-by-day would be correct. Every pregnancy requires a certain amount of letting go of control (especially at the end), but pregnancy after a loss carries so much more fear when you see the control slipping away (and when you're baby had died at the very end). You live in a constant state of "what if," and you begin to doubt all your decisions about the baby's movements, the interventions, etc. I tried to hang onto my sanity each day. I could never in a million years have planned or foreseen the events of the week leading up to Judah's birth. God certainly took me up on my offer to "show me what you got," and through a series of events I can hopefully show how He indeed made "all things new," for my heart.
Monday, January 12- I have a routine non-stress test to monitor baby's movements. Up until this point in pregnancy Judah had been breeched and we had a scheduled c-section for Friday January 16th. I usually spent each 20-30 minute non-stress test listening to praise and worship music with my headphones. These tests are very stressful for any mom who has had a previous stillbirth because they have so much to do with baby's movements or lack of movements. During my "prayer" time as I liked to call it, while listening to this song, I felt God ask me,
"what do you want? A c-section or not?"
While the c-section did hold some appeal because of the control factor in it, ultimately I told Him that I would like to try to deliver another baby boy naturally and this time see my baby boy come out alive, not dead. Not 5 minutes later the nurse came in to check Judah's movement strip on the machine. She said he was not moving as much as they would like, so off to the sonogram room it was.
The sonogram room is my worst nightmare because that is where I was told Caleb had died. I have seared in my memory the tech who was working the sonogram machine the day Caleb died. I do not like this tech, not because of anything she has ever done, but simply because of the news she told me all those years ago. I had miraculously avoided her Judah's entire pregnancy, until that Monday. As I climbed onto the sonogram table I had an inward panic attack when I saw her face and realized she would be doing the sonogram. "Please don't let this be a repeat Lord, don't let the baby be dead," was the only thing I could think. Within seconds I heard Judah's strong heartbeat and saw him moving on the screen. I looked at the sonogram lady and she was smiling and said "he flipped! He's head down ready for delivery!"
And me and the sonogram lady had a moment of pure happiness.
I'm not sure if she remembers me, but the Lord knew that I remembered her and my only memory with her was terrible. He redeemed that memory, and replaced it with one of joy. She continued on to say the baby looked healthy and great and I left the office feeling wave after wave of peace wash over me.
Tuesday January 13, 3:00am- I was in the middle of a panic attack on our way to the hospital. Because we now planned to induce within the week, I had received a steroid injection Monday afternoon to help develop baby's lungs. Unfortunately, I think a side effect of this injection was extreme anxiety which then turned into panic. I was officially convinced when we showed up to labor and delivery that the baby was dead. But, thankfully Judah was safe and sound, and we got to hear his strong heartbeat as we sat through an hour of monitoring. While there the nurse that attended to me was very sweet. At one point she said "did you use to work at Saint Mary's Grade school?" Yes, yes I did. With tears in her eyes she said that because her kids went to school there, she remembered me and my son Caleb. Her empathy and compassion were like a healing balm to my soul at that scary moment. She reassured me that this baby boy would come out alive. I felt God validate through this women that this journey had been scary ( I mean she was even choked up!), and He had not forgotten me or my firstborn son. We left the hospital at 5am with a clean bill of health for me and baby.
Wednesday January 14- I have another non-stress test and baby does great. I tell my doctor that Im freaking out and I NEED this baby to come out. Originally the doctors had wanted me to try to wait until 38 weeks or beyond to induce because of Judah being a boy and the possibility of his lungs being under-developed. Sunday would have been our scheduled induction at exactly 38 weeks but I knew I couldn't make it that long. Even though it was only 5 days away, I had a gut feeling that I needed to get this baby out. My doctor is wonderful and agreed. We scheduled an induction for 7pm the following night. All I could think was "just keep this baby alive for one more night and one more day, then its the hospital's job to keep him alive." Like I said, I was living moment by moment.
Thursday January 15- It all began to hit me as we packed the hospital bag-Thursday, Thursday, Thursday. I had done this before on a Thursday night 4 years ago, packing a hospital bag to go deliver a stillborn baby. But this Thursday was different, this was "new." Anyone who has ever dealt with grief knows all about triggers and dates lining up. We were setting ourselves up for the exact same timeline of our delivery with Caleb. I kept thinking "God really cares about details!"
So we packed, dropped Abigail off at my mom's and then called labor and delivery. Nope, they didn't have a room yet, call back in an hour. This exact same thing happened to us with Caleb. It felt like the twilight zone as Nathan and I and my big belly wondered around our house trying to figure out what to do to pass the time until we could go to the hospital. I have such strong memories of doing this exact thing with Caleb. And then at 11 pm, the same time we got the ok with Caleb, the hospital said they had a room!
We rushed over there, but not before stopping to do one small task-take out the recycling. If there is anything you take from this story, please remember the recycling because it blows my mind even now. When we went to deliver Caleb all those years ago on a Thursday night, we saw that everyone on our street had put their recycling cans out for the next day. In a daze we looked at each other and said "what do we do?" It was the first time I realized that the world would keep moving even though our world had stopped. In the end Nate put the recycling cans out and for the last 4 years every time (once a month) that I saw all those recycling cans lined up on our street, I felt sick to my stomach with grief. So here we were, again on recycling night (which again only happens once a month!) and so we put the cans out. In the months since Judah's birth, whenever the cans are out, I now immediately think "that's the night we went to deliver Judah," and there is happiness in my heart. God cared about that small detail that hurt my heart and lined things up exactly to redeem even that.
Thursday January 15-Saturday January 17
You can read about Judah's entire birth story here. God continued to redeem things even during the labor and delivery. We again started induction on Thursday night like with Caleb and again delivered a baby boy on Saturday morning, just like with Caleb. Thankfully, Judah was born alive and well, fulfilling the prophecy God had told me in prayer "In the dead of winter we will bring forth new life." When Caleb died it was Spring, and I felt overcome with sadness that in the heart of this life-giving season, death had stole my son. Now, however in the dead of winter God promised to do something "new," to bring life during the harshest, darkest season.
The nurse that was on duty Friday night was named Kathy. She let me cry to her about how scared I was and knew how to handle me. The name Kathy was also the name of the nurse that cared for me after Caleb was born and ultimately carried Caleb out of my room. I still have in my mind the image of that nurse, named Kathy, leaving my room with my baby never to see him again. In a way having another nurse Kathy might just be coincidence, but I see God's fingerprints all over it as a way to redeem another hard memory.
The nurse, Laura, that actually delivered Caleb was there on call again to deliver Judah. Instead of tears of sadness like she had when Caleb was born, this time she had shouts of joy! She energized the whole room with her positive attitude and I knew once she arrived that everything was going to be alright. At 9:52 a.m with tons and tons of light streaming in the windows, Judah Thomas Carr was born!
Lastly, in the years since Caleb's death, I had often begged God for answers. I can't tell you how many times I've wondered "how does a normal, healthy baby just up and die?" In time I've accepted that answers wouldn't change the fact that he is gone, but I always still longed to know. Because of certain details during Judah's labor and then delivery AND thanks to our amazing doctor, we were able to gain some clues as to why Caleb died. Again, if you want the whole story read the link to the birth story above, but the gist of it is that God gave us answers after four long years of not knowing much.
In the hours, days and weeks after Judah was born there was lots of talk about Caleb and Judah and my two boys and this link they had because of Judah showing us reasons why Caleb died. It was beautiful and unexpected, and I still cry over it when I think about how good God's timing is. I never expected to walk out of the hospital last January with a live baby boy AND answers to a four year long mystery, but we did. I guess God's got more than I give him credit for and He did indeed show me up.
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| "Once again she conceived and bore a son. This time, she said, 'I will give thankful praise to God and thus named him Judah.'" (Genesis 29:35) |
If you are in a hard season, a hard life, please know that God can and does use our suffering. He can "make all things new." I can't tell you when or how, but I know if you ask Him, He will come and help lighten those painful memories. I will always carry the scars from Caleb's death around, but God has softened them and given me new memories of joy.
"And the ransomed of the Lord shall return,
and come to Zion with singing;
everlasting joy shall be upon their heads;
they shall obtain joy and gladness,
and sorrow and sighing shall flee away." (Isaiah 35:10)
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